Most girls cheat on their boyfriends and will make them feel they are their everything (love). They will all the time pretend they love you but they don’t.
Here are some tips to let you know when you have a cheating girlfriend.
1. She Pays More Attention To Her Phone Than You.
If you inevitably spend every dinner glaring at her as she pivots between various social networks and replies to every text message that springs up, don’t be too quick to write her behavior off as a sign of the times.
Sure, we’re all guilty of being so overly engrossed in our digital lives that we neglect the present moment. But if she makes a continual habit of talking to her Twitter followers more than you during dinner dates, it may point to her lack of investment in the relationship, not just her fleeting attention span. We don’t want to say she might be spending your night together making plans with someone else, but stranger things have happened.
2. She’s Less Interested In Sex.
Every couple has sex routines. Maybe three times a week is your norm; maybe you get it in every night. But if your norm inexplicably changes, and you find you’re battling a new excuse every night, you may want to investigate what lies at the root of the issue. Is she really too tired (every damn night)? Has your sex life just gotten that boring? Or, is she simply disinterested in humping you…because she’s getting it elsewhere?
We’re not saying you should draw wild conclusions from a single “not tonight,” but be aware of what normal looks like so you know when your sex schedule diverges from it, and take the time to discuss what the real issue is.
3. She Accumulates New Clothes At Higher Rates Than Usual.
If your girl goes into makeover mode and tears through the mall like Sonic the Hedgehog on a mission, you should take notice. Most women have an affinity for retail, but if her shopping takes on a rabid focus seemingly out of nowhere, you should ask yourself why she has become invested in reinventing herself.
Again, it’s about a departure from the norm. If your girl normally puts on a full face of make-up to run errands, don’t think twice about her putting on mascara to go to the dry-cleaners. But if she’s a sweats-and-Chapstick type of chick, and she suddenly starts taking an hour to get ready to go out (particularly, without you), you have a reason to worry.
4. She Flirts With Other People In Front Of You.
This points to larger issues of being attention-starved, having an insatiable ego, and otherwise being insecure. But more notably, if she’s comfortable batting her eyes at other people in front of you, what is she doing when you’re not there?
5. She Makes a Point To Say She’s Unhappy.
It’s easy to misinterpret any of the aforementioned signals as infidelity when in actuality, there is a perfectly reasonable explanation. But, if you start noticing that the signs are slowly piling up, and she’s recently admitted she’s no longer happy in the relationship, you might be on the verge of a full-fledged confession.
Guilt is a tricky emotion, and she might feel that by fessing up to her flailing satisfaction in the relationship, she is offering you (and herself) an explanation for her selfish actions. Or, she could be gearing up to act on a long-held impulse, and making her excuses in advances so she can later utter, “I told you so,” with aplomb.
6. She’s Talking Way Too Much To Someone.
This is perhaps the most obvious sign your girlfriend is cheating of them all.
Is she always chatting or texting with some new guy? Then, she’s probably cheating. However, keep in mind, it may not be all that easy to know if she’s talking to someone.
It would take a particularly brazen cheater to regularly text the other person right in front of you. It’s much more likely that the communication is not that straightforward. She may email the other person instead of texting—perhaps when you’re asleep or out doing something else—or she may talk to them only while at work.
If both parties are trying to keep this secret, they probably are doing at least that bare minimum to keep you off the scent. But if your partner is that obvious about it, things are probably in a pretty bad state in your relationship.
7. She’s Always Working.
The easiest way to brush off your inquiries into number 3 is to blame it all on work. This has all the sound of a reasonable excuse until you dig a little bit deeper.
If she’s working so much, what is the project? Did she get a promotion? Why is the boss keeping her late?
If she’s cheating, it’s likely the “work” excuse breaks down pretty quickly. If she doesn’t offer more information to make the situation a bit clearer (and more realistic), it’s far more likely, she’s keeping the story short on details to avoid falling into a lie you can check out.
Start getting suspicious if she reacts negatively when you want to know more instead of laying the situation out in detail.
8. She Claims Her Friend Needs Her, But Won’t Explain The Situation.
If it isn’t work, it’s a friend. But once again, the details are likely to be sketchy, and she’ll be touchy if you push for more specificity. Someone needs her support—and keeps her out of the house—but she’s (conveniently for her) been sworn to silence about what’s happening.
This one can be very hard to confirm one way or the other. She may have just such a situation with a friend (you’ll know how true this rings for yourself if you have kept up with her friend circle).
At the same time, her friend may very well cover for her if you make a cursory check. Best, in this case, to note the issue and look for evidence elsewhere.
9. She’s Constantly Distracted.
The problem may not show up in a busy schedule or unexplained nights out, she may just make it clear she wishes she were somewhere else. When she’s with you, these days, she may constantly seem distracted. Even if she’s technically sitting beside you, her mind is somewhere else… or, with someone else.
Your problems are no longer of any interest to her. Whatever is happening at your work or with your friends or family, she just doesn’t have much time or patience to worry about.
Instead, she’s busy staring off and thinking about…something. Always something else. If she’s no longer emotionally available for you, that may be a sign your girlfriend is cheating and may be making herself available for someone else instead.
10. She Has Trouble Saying “I Love You”.
You may be well beyond those early, smoochy, “I love you” days in the relationship, but if she looks a little nauseous when she says “I love you,” she probably doesn’t mean it.
Watch to see if she tries to avoid saying the words–by changing the subject or just ignoring your effort. Otherwise, she may just mumble the three syllables to get it over with.
If there’s no enthusiasm behind the most important phrase in your relationship, there’s a problem, whether it is cheating or not.
11. She’s Dressing Up, And It’s Never For You.
New dresses, new shoes, new panties: is your partner buying a whole new wardrobe? Well, it’s only fair to ask, who is it for?
Perhaps she’s spoiling herself just for the sake of it, but perhaps she’s trying to look good for a purpose, and if that purpose is never you, you’ve got to start considering it’s someone else instead.
Watch out for how she dresses when she goes out with “friends” or heads off to work (especially if, as said above, you are never invited to these get-togethers). Is it markedly different than before? Does she give you a reason for the change that’s believable?
12. She Doesn’t Make Eye Contact Anymore.
There’s a lot of truth in the old expression “the eyes are the windows to the soul.” If she’s refusing to look you in the eye, it’s because she’s either lost interest in you or wants to hide something.
Keep an eye on where her gaze goes whenever topics turn serious. This is an easy way to gauge if she’s being upfront with you.
13. She Doesn’t Want To Cuddle.
Not everybody is a big cuddler, but if she used to like sitting close on the couch together or holding each other before going to sleep, and now she’s gone cold, she’s sending you a major sign.
Sometimes, someone cools off because they are responding to what they see in their partner. So, make the effort a few times. Put your arm around her and hold her close. If she pulls away, she’s trying to get away in more ways than one.
14. She Kisses You Without Any Passion.
You probably don’t need an article to tell you she’s cheating if she isn’t kissing you at all anymore, but what about if she’s just not putting any passion into it?
Like several of the signs your girlfriend is cheating above, this can just be proof of a problem in the relationship without it necessarily being cheating. But be aware, if there are problems that serious, it is just one more piece of evidence she’s on the way out the door, and maybe that she has someone waiting for her there.
15. She’s Just Not That Into You Anymore.
How’s your sex life?
If she’s cheating, the most likely answer is, “not good.” While, hypothetically, she might be keeping up her lovemaking with you and someone else, it’s far more likely she’s letting one bed get cold if she’s warming up another one.
If this side of the relationship is quickly disappearing—along with the last few signs above—you’re in trouble for any number of reasons, one of which is definitely a cheating girlfriend.
So… is she cheating? Is she using me? Ask yourself: how many of the signs your girlfriend is cheating did you see? If it’s a high number, there’s a chance that she cheated on you.
…But regardless, whether you see her acting out in any of the above ways or not, the fact you are looking so closely suggests your relationship needs work. There’s a lack of trust between you and enough emotional distance that a cheating girlfriend seems a realistic possibility.
So, whether she’s strayed, thinking about it, or simply not focused on the partnership enough, there’s a problem, and it’s time to start fixing it or getting ready to get out.